Family, Finance & Photography; Meet the Pitts
Photograph by megapixelsmedia
Welcome to Love Goals! Here we discuss, highlight and celebrate Black Love. Love Goals will feature some of our favorite couple friends, along with new couples creating their own definitions for their relationship. Megan and Garrett Pitts have MySpace to thank for their first encounter (talk about the original slide into the DM’s). They connected for a first date in 2006 and have been together ever since. From starting a photography business together, to real estate investments, Megan and Garrett tackle adulthood, parenthood, and life with huge smiles on their faces. Learn more about why they are committed to each and what makes them love goals for us.
How did you meet?
We met back when MySpace was a thing! I (Megan) was in a mutual friend's Top 8 and when Garrett saw my photo he reached out to our friend to get the inside scoop. Our friend reached out to me on AOL Instant Messenger (because that was a thing too) and told me that he was interested and she invited me to her church to meet him. Initially I wasn't interested but then she told me they were having free breakfast at church after services and I couldn't resist. So we met in person at Church on May 28, 2006 and it's been an unfiltered wave of sarcastic remarks ever since.
Describe your first date?
We continued to meet periodically at Church throughout the summer. Autumn came around and we decided to go out and do something by ourselves so we went to the movies to see a good movie. Unfortunately the best movie out at the time was Saw 3 so made the best of it. I was like 20 minutes late and Garrett spilled half the bag of Reese's Pieces on the floor. Already off to a great start... our second date was much better.
How do you maintain individuality?
By being a good team but allowing each other to do their own thing that makes them happy. We also allow each other space, quiet time and alone time so that we can both do what makes us happy individually. Because although we like a lot of the same things, we do have certain things that we like to do just for ourselves.
How do you balance, maintain and manage your relationship around engineering, a photography business and real estate investments?
It's honestly a lot of work and it doesn't leave room for a lot of leisure time. Because we're managing and maintaining different businesses it takes a way time that we would normally be spending with each other or our families. Since it's taking away that precious time, it helps that we feel fulfilled in those businesses on a personal level. A personal connection to your career/business makes the work exciting and when you're excited about your business it makes it easier to devote your time to it.
What is a piece of advice you’ve received that you’d pass on to another couple?
Enjoy yourself as a married couple before you have kids. Travel together, go on fun dates, eat amazing food, do a couples retreat, do something for the first time together. Build beautiful memories together so you have those to share together later.
Photograph by Justine Sadler
“We also allow each other space, quiet time and alone time so that we can both do what makes us happy individually.”
What is the worst advice you’ve received?
"Never go to sleep angry." We're all adults, you can go to sleep however you want. If you need to sleep on a situation to gather your thoughts and find the best way to approach it in the morning, do that.
Now that you’ve been parents for nearly a year, how has the dynamic of your relationshipchanged? (pros vs. cons) What advice would you give to new parents?
It's hard to describe. It has definitely pushed us to be more creative with our time (especially when it comes to being intimate). It's also made us prioritize what's really important to us in our relationship and how we can keep each other from feeling burnt out. Since having a baby, we've started to outsource some things around the house that neither one of us wants to spend time doing. We've also found value in having someone watch our baby a few hours on certain days so I can get some unfiltered work done at home or go to the gym. Now since COVID has shut everything down that whole plan has been shot to hell but before then that has been a lifesaver! Feeling like I can do everything all the time worked for me before having a baby but now I'm ok with letting others help out. Outsourcing may feel like a loss of control but really when you see how effectively your energy and time can be used when you have someone helping, you'll see that the outcome is well worth it. So our advice, you don't have to do it all even when it feels like you need to. Others can help.
“So our advice, you don't have to do it all even when it feels like you need to. Others can help.”
Photograph by megapixelsmedia
How do you manage the finances? Shared or Separate accounts? Why?
We both opened a shared savings account after we got married but we still have our separate checking accounts that we use for individual use. We try not to touch our savings unless we really need to.
What are 3 goals you share as a couple?
Loving each other deeply everyday
Building a fearless family
Reaching Financial Independence
What is one word you would use to describe your relationship and why?
Fearless
We love this word because it's a reminder that absolutely nothing is out of bounds. Anything is obtainable if you want it bad enough. If you're willing to show up and do the work, you can have whatever you want. So often fear and doubt keep us from experiencing the best of what this human experience has to offer us. Fear keeps us from becoming the most divine versions of ourselves. Whenever one of us starts to doubt a great idea we can ask each other "Is that a Fearless decision?" "Are you being Fearless?". This word has a way of pushing us to the next level and calls us out on our bullshit every time. Fear is a real emotion but often useless.
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